Be Happy!

         This weekend I had an encounter with my dear friend, who sounded a little down and I decided to write my blog for those of us who at times are sad, and think the world is against us. 

        Just remember that negative emotions can be toxic.  Prolonged sadness can lead to a state of depression, which can itself be life-threatening.  Depression is linked to the development of heart disease and is a risk factor for heart attacks. Too much fear can cause people to become house-bound, have unrelenting head aches, and develop ulcer and high blood pressure.

        The good news is that positive emotions, including happiness, can transform one’s life. You can’t be too happy.  So if you find yourself in a happy moment, be thankful for it, and hope it continues beyond 25 minutes.  Something as simple as listening to music, hearing birds chirping, watching butterflies float in the air, gazing into the night sky.

        Remember, life is too short not enjoying it…..be happy and transfer  that happiness to others around you, they probably need it as much as you do.

       This “rough” time will come to pass and one day we will look at it and think of it as an amazing experience that made us stronger and better fighters in life.  So my dear friend hold on tight, for the wind will lift you up your sail once again and take you safely to the shore where amazing things awaits you!!!!!

Embrace Optimisim

Why does optimism matter?  Because if your future looks rosy, being happy in the present is easier.  Beyond the simple reality that optimists are happier people (and happiness is what you are striving for), optimism has other benefits as well:


* Optimists enjoy a greater degree of  success than pessimists do, because they believe they can achieve it, therefore they make smart decisions, and work harder to get to it.

* Optimists tend to set more specific goals than pessimists do.  The more specific and concrete your goals are, the more likely you will be to achieve success.  For example, if you need to loose weight, set attainable goals, 2 lbs a week is more achievable and getting there is easier, than a pessimists who needs to loose 50lbs and believes there is no way I can do this in one month.  This is mathematically and physically impossible. 

* Optimists are more self-confident than pessimists are.  They believe in themselves more than fate.  They do not look for the "magic pill".

* Optimists persist and persevere.  They are not quitters!  They schedule their workout routine, they don't leave it to " I will get to it later attitude".


* Optimists welcome second chances after they fail more than pessimists do, because they expect to achieve a better result the second time around. If they miss one or two training sessions, they make sure they make it up ASAP.  If they cheated on dessert, they substitute more healthy foods for the next few outings.


* Optimists cope with stress better than pessimists do.  Pessimists worry, optimists act.  A person with coronary heart disease who is pessimists "hopes for better health".  The optimists heart patient leaves a little to chance and starts an exercise regimen. 


So at the end, being optimist will get you closer to your happiness in life.  And if your health/fitness level stops you from being  happy, join a fitness program that suits you and make sure you consult your physician in advance.

The Art of Capoeira

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Chegado and I have been training the art of Capoeira for 14 years, each of us stumbled upon the art in different ways but stayed for the same reason, it is truly a captivating art.  It is an art form that challenges you physically and intellectually.  Each person that trains Capoeira is drawn to it for their own specific and personal reason, it develops  your rhythm, strength, agility, reflex, as well as your musical, acrobatic and dance skills.  But for most, it is the history, the tradition, the cultural and the profound sense of community that are sticking points. 

Capoeira is the art of survival, with a history that dates back more than 500 years to the slave trade in Brazil.  It was and is an art of empowerment, a celebration of the African roots in Brazil; from the music to the movement it tells the story of a people oppressed, enslaved and later liberated through their strength and will.  

We made the decision to pursue the art form professionally because we believe Capoeira is a vehicle for positive change and cultural enrichment.  The art form promotes diversity, understanding, creativity, health, and discipline for youth and adults alike. Northeast Los Angeles is a vibrant and eclectic community that appreciates and searches out cultural diversity in the arts and we are blessed to have found our home here.

 

 

Recognize the Importance of Rituals

 Much of everyday life is made up of rituals-established, predictable, patterned behaviors that structure the day.  There are morning rituals (brushing your teeth, showering, reading newspaper), midday rituals (everything from the so-called "power lunch" to a simple sandwich in your office), and evening rituals (a cocktail or two, dinner at 6:00 pm, a few minutes of intimate time with your spouse, and -if you are lucky---sex).

 

Rituals are a form of structure that actually make life flow more easily.  They are mindless- you do them without thinking. Perhaps most important of all, they orient you as to where you are and what you should be doing.  Rituals are like an invisible watch- if you are taking a shower, it must be morning! Without rituals, every day is a new day full of unpredictability, uncertainty, and the possibility of unhappiness.

 

Here are some examples of what rituals you can incorporate into your life:

• Exercise first thing in the morning, join a gym with group classes, and make sure the instructors are certified and know their discipline.  Being in a group environment motivates you to keep going, and you have a partner who is accountable.

• Sitting for a few minutes of quiet contemplation, in meditation or prayer. 

• Getting a professional massage once a month.  Relieve stress from your body and relax your mind.

• Browsing through your favorite bookstore every Saturday morning (you gotta hurry before they close them all down)

• Checking in via email or text with loved ones once a day.

• Taking an afternoon nap.

• Enjoying some quality, one-on-one time with your pet.

• Spending five minutes every day reflecting on all the things you have to be grateful for.  Count your blessings.

Don't become a slave to rituals; otherwise they become tedious.  If something more interesting comes along at the same time you normally take your afternoon nap, go for it!  You can always nap tomorrow.

In the Face of Challenges, Rivise Your Life Plan

Major life challenges and trials disrupt your life and force you to redirect your energies, interests, and commitments.  But how do you do that? It's not easy to revise your life and move into a positive, more satisfying future.  But these steps can get you moving in the right direction:

• Create a positive mindset by sitting quietly with your eyes closed while opening your mind to the possibility of hope, optimism, and creative behavioral change.  Take ten exaggerated breaths, breathing in through your nose and out through your mouth while silently repeating the word relax each time you exhale.

• Identify a short list of valued life goals-for example, being closet to your family, becoming a more spiritual person, reconnecting with old friends, and getting in shape. Goals give you a sense of direction in terms of the changes you want to make.  Basically, you are deciding what you want your life to stand for from this point on.

•  Surround yourself with people who have positive energy, who can push you and direct you toward your goals.

• Decide what the incentives are for you to reach these goals.  What is the end game?  Will you have greater peace of mind?  Will you be happier? Will you live longer?  Be specific.

• Ask yourself how committed you are to achieving each goal.  The more committed you are, the more successful you will be.

• Ask yourself how confident you are about making these changes.  Commitment and confidence are not the same.  You can be committed, but not all that confident- or, the other way around.

• Consider what specific things you would need to realize each goal.  Where would you start?  How much support do you need?  If you have several goals, which one do you begin with?  Make it easy on yourself-start with the smallest, easiest thing and work your way up to the big changes.

• Identify any obstacles to meet your objectives.  Do you have physical limitations that might interfere?  Are other people's attitudes holding you back?

• Begin-Just Do It.  It does not matter what you do; the important thing is that you just do something. Change takes effort, so you have to persist, even when going gets tough.  There is no easy way to accomplish change.  Change also takes time, so be patient.  As the saying goes, "Rome wasn't built in a day."  You Cannot reconstruct your life in a day either.  Focus on the destination, but enjoy the journey.

• Reward yourself for whatever changes you make no matter how small.  If changes is rewarding, keep at it-if it isn't, quit.  It's just that simple.

Put Your Mind to Work for You

What is it that you want in life?  

A debt-free life, new friends, a loving partner, a knock-out to die for healthy body, plenty of money, a new car, or the dream job- whatever the person desires will manifest. When someone decides to accelerate the process and works out a plan to allow for that manifestation, myriad opportunities begin to present themselves.

 

A person who wants to get to the next level, whatever the goal might be, needs only to change his or her mindset and be aware that the opportunities for manifestation of his or her desire will become more commonplace.  It is as if the universe is working with you, putting wind in the sail of your dream ship to take you anywhere you want to go and give you the experiences, relationships, money, wealth, and things you most desire.

 

Fernando Reis

Fernando Reis, who teaches Brazilian Jiu Jitu here at Xtreme Training Center, has changed his mind set, moving forward full force to manifest his desires and dreams, has this to say, "The personal development program 'Your Wish Is Your Command' dramatically improved the quality of my life. In only a few months after I started listening to the CDs I tripled my income, I  have better relationship with everybody around me, I re-connected with my family, and found myself excited about what is coming to my life in the future. I feel truly empowered."

 

             What is stopping you from reaching the next level of your life?

Why Fitness Is So Important When You Have Cancer

Why Fitness Is So Important When You Have Cancer

By: David Haas

Struggling against cancer can be an extremely draining experience- mentally, physically, and emotionally. The diagnosis itself can come like a punch in the gut, and the treatment can leave you feeling fatigued, anxious, or depressed. The good news is that there are things you can do to help. Getting in shape is one. The cancer and the treatments for it are only one factor in how you are feeling. Science is telling us that our fitness level has a greater impact on our energy levels, mood, and overall health than was previously known. Let's take a look at just a few of the benefits that come from adding regular exercise into your treatment regimen when you are battling even a serious cancer like mesothelioma.

Mood Boost

Exercise boosts energy levels. One of the ways it does so is by reducing levels of a stress chemical in your body called cortisol. Cortisol is usually referred to as the "fight or flight" substance. It is there to put your body into danger mode in the case you are confronted with a highly stressful situation like a fight. Anxiety raises cortisol levels. But it isn't good to constantly feel anxious and places an additional burden on your already stressed body. When you exercise, cortisol levels are reduced and the anxiety you were experiencing is replaced by feelings of calm and contentment.

Energy Levels

Another reason to start exercising is that you will increase your energy levels. A common complaint heard among cancer patients is lack of energy. The treatments help with the cancer, but healthy cells are also affected. Fatigue can be alleviated through regular exercise. Of course, there will be a short period of tiredness immediately following your exercise. But over time, it pays off in the form of increased energy levels throughout the day. Your investment in exercise will pay dividends and allow you to get more done, in spite of your illness.

Increased energy is usually seen soon after beginning an exercise plan. And if you should miss a few days, you will definitely notice it in terms of reduced energy. Make a commitment to exercise and you won't regret it.

Better Sleep

One often overlooked benefit of exercise is improved sleep. Your body wants to active. You will sleep better and longer when you exercise regularly. Studies have shown that people who regularly exercise experience better sleep and less daytime fatigue. Your body desperately needs that sleep to heal itself. You will also be less irritable and have more energy when you sleep well.

Do make sure, however, that you get your exercise in several hours before your bedtime so that you don't have trouble falling asleep afterwards.

Through People's Eyes

 

To see you through my eyes, I must define myself!

I am a sailboat in the middle of a long exhausting journey.... shortly after a big storm, I find myself stranded.... in the middle of a dark still ocean….with a tough able crew together...alone...

There is no wind, no movement, no hope of reaching home….
So from nowhere comes a big beautiful perfect wave.  Bringing with it.... a temporary breeze, a smell, a light's reflection, a flicker of strength,  and with it a needed motion to the vessel.
 

And although it will pass and continue on its course.... it lifted this boat as high as this waves strengths allow, and reminds me what it’s like to move with the wind that will one day come and take me to wherever my home is:)  

I am this boat and you this wave....thank you for hitting my side and holding me to rise.  Even for a short time. Even for an easy gesture for a wave as beautiful as you;)